As urban dictionary describes “to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as, a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown-ups”. Adulting isn’t all it’s cracked up to be… it can be pretty daunting.  I’m out of university and it’s a real shift.  At first, I immediately regretted wishing I was grown up. The grass really is greener on the other side, the longing to go back to university or even high school sets in. A time where I had very few responsibilities (which once I thought were many) and I began to kick myself thinking how could I be so unaware of the freedom that I once had. The security blanket of the school system is gone (I DIDN’T EVEN REALIZE IT WAS A SECURITY BLANKET).  I don’t have the school system holding my hand anymore.  Now I’m out in the career world, and my degree like most others doesn’t hold a  linear path after graduation. But I’ve been ingrained that this degree will get me a great paying job. What this job will be I don’t have the slightest clue. I have no idea what to search in “Indeed” or “Monster” for jobs.  I begin to feel envious of those who selected nursing, dentistry or teaching. Their path is laid out, more importantly, they have a clear understanding of what their next forty-odd years in the workforce will look like.  For the rest of us or at least myself, it’s an unsettling search. Questions like.. what am I even qualified for? Where do I even start? The realization sets in that a degree is the new high school diploma, which means my expensive piece of paper isn’t going to get me very far. I have a job and it is nowhere near where I thought I would be.

But maybe I’m not alone in this feeling, in 2014 CTV held an online poll and the results showed “73 percent of respondents said they work in jobs unrelated to their educational backgrounds, while 56 percent said they are over-educated for their current jobs”. My current position has been shifted to require an undergraduate degree, a decade ago it required a high school diploma. The change in requirements wasn’t due to the difficulty of the position, but the influx of undergraduate applicants. In the National Post an article titled: “Young Money: You’re going to need more than a degree to get a job”, spoke to “ who surveyed 415 private-sector hiring managers and discovered that 36% of them had begun hiring university graduates for jobs that once required merely a high school degree”. Now that you’re sufficiently depressed lol, there is hope or at least I’ve chosen to see it as such. No matter what job you get offered, take it. There is so much to learn in these positions, even if it is not what you think you want. Believe it or not, it will help you narrow down your skills. What you excel at and what you don’t. Trust me when you’re in a job you hate, nothing motivates you more to figure out what you love. Now I may not be where I want to be yet, but being in a job I hate really has helped me figure out what I don’t want.  Although I feel behind in the career race that’s okay because, in the end, you should only compete with yourself and not others.  Now I don’t think adulting has to be a 9-5 job, heck my current job is 11 hours a day. I’m not saying it should be that either, but what I do know after talking to clients at my current position is those who hate their jobs and count the hours and those who don’t look up and the work day is over. So for those of you are lost.. keep learning, watch ted talks, read the defining decade, remember you have time to learn things outside of your school books and work assignments don’t get lost in Instagram or TV!!  Find the time to really question what you want your next 40 years in the workforce to look like and hopefully you and I will find jobs where we never want quit.

disclaimer: I’m aware not everyone has had this experience and to those people I say congrats!!  sincerely, I admire those who know exactly where they want to go and they make it happen! And please feel free to share how you figured it out. And to those in the industry that I labeled as having a very linear path, I know that isn’t always the case, I hope no offense was taken by that point. I appreciate hearing everyone’s story on how they found their way to their passion.